A few weeks ago, on a beautiful weekend like that, a friend sent me a photo of herself and her hubby cuddled up, all loved up and wrote “My happy place”. (Women and wahala)

I smiled and sent her a ‘smile’ emoticon.

Last weekend, she sent me a message complaining bitterly of how “unromantic, insensitive to her feelings, and unempathetic her hubby has become. She ended her message saying, “I am not happy in this marriage”.

I felt like resending the loved up photo that she sent to me a few weeks before to remind her of what she had said earlier, but i didn’t want to seem insensitive, so i let it go. I just counselled her and we dropped the issue.

I thought to share here instead, that “HAPPINESS IS A DIRECTION NOT A PLACE”.

Truth is that, becoming happy is up to you.No one else can make you happy “All the time”. And true happiness can never be built at the expense of others.

Happiness is not a destination. It is a way of life. Be happy with what you have, be excited about what you want. You want to get married? Be excited about it but be happy with being single. You want to be rich, be excited about it but be happy with being poor.

Happiness is not something readymade, it comes from your own actions. It is a function of accepting what it really is.

Happiness is found along the way not at the end of the road.

You are just as happy as you make up your mind to be. If others don’t like it, then let them be. Happiness is a choice. Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.

Break a leg!